Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Sometimes it is hard to admit your children are growing up. I am having a real difficult time with it today.

Lauren has decided she wants to be a "Senior" and have at least 1 fun year in High School instead of being a Cheerleader again. This is very hard for me to accept for many reasons. I have not said much for the past 3 years about her experience as a Cheerleader. Maybe I shouldn't at all but I will tell you I have watched her cry, be hurt both mentally and physically, be let down by her teammates, get run over and more than I can even explain on here. I have struggled with her decision all day and I have no idea why. Maybe because I have watched her be let down over and over. I have held her up when her team should have. I have made excuses and promised her maybe just one more year and it will change.
I have watched her love this with all her heart and watched her lose her passion.

I know this was a hard decision for her but at the same time I am so proud of her for walking away. I am proud she has the respect to let someone else have her spot and that she isn't just doing this to make me happy.

She wants to be with her friends in the stands having fun. I can understand that! She wants to do things her Senior year that she could not do if she was Cheering. I understand that.

I am so sad about it and honestly I shouldn't be but I have to wonder is it because she is growing up or is it because she walked away from something she loved so much at one time.

This will be Lauren's last Summer as a "kid" and I really want her to enjoy it.

Sunday, March 27, 2011

Last Monday Nat came home from school crying because her leg was hurting. Well I thought because it was Monday after Spring Break she was just worn out. So we went to her Softball game.
Tuesday she had a track meet and came home crying and seemed to be even more upset. I figured she pulled something. So I told her I would make an appointment.
Wednesday she had to run at school and was in major pain. I then decided to make an appointment with the Orthopedic doctor and off we went.

So she limped in and this is how she explained it....I run and my leg hurts so bad. I keep on thru my race and it is numb then after my run it is so intense I can't stand it. I SIGH

Keep in mind Nat is my very very competitive child. After xrays and the doctor looking at her leg(lots of poking and screaming) he says she has a stress fracture and will need to be on crutches at least a month. Now I am thinking in my head "yea OK I don't see that happening at all". But as he finishes the sentence she bust out into tears. To her this is the end of the world. To me this means we are back to not running all over to different games. He had to explain to her if this completely "breaks" you are going to have surgery and have 2 rods placed in your leg. So we left with crutches and one very upset girl. She cried and cried and cried!!

Friday we had to go back because of swelling in her foot and pain. She is now in a temporary soft cast because he believes she also has it in her foot.

NOT FUN FOR HER AT ALL.

I will need to update with a new picture tomorrow.


Just in case you are wondering~ I would rather be watching Natalie's sports than watching her struggle to not run into everything. I really love the excitement and rushing around.



WOW Lauren turned 17 and the difference in 16 and 17 actually happens over night. Suddenly she looks older,acts older and it completely different. I am so proud of her for everything she does. I am also proud of the fact she has made it to 17 and beat the odds of becoming a 16 year old parent since she was born to one. I know most of it has to do with my parenting but she also makes positive choices. She has goals and will achieve them.
Now when she turns 18 we will be having a celebration! It is so important to me to continue to educate these kids on the importance on making good choices,being responsible and respecting yourself.

All of this and a Shick Hydro razor for .39 at Kroger. Yes I am serious. I used manufacture coupons and store e coupons and actually got money back towards my purchase.

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Here is something I have never talked about with anyone...

I felt the need to log on and add this bit~ I am not complaining about my life in any way. I felt I needed to vent after something I saw and I would not trade this life for anything in this world!


Being married to a Deputy. I was very aggravated today when I saw a derogatory post on a Facebook status. I normally don't care when people say stuff and believe me I hear it all. I am not sure if people say stuff and don't think but I really have heard people say "ugh I hate cops, I got another ticket", "he was just having a bad day or I wouldn't have been stopped", "there I was waving my arms trying to flag the stupid cop down and he just kept on driving" Oh that is not even the worst. I hear it all.

So today I am going to tell you what it is like in my eyes to be married to a deputy. Maybe people just think they drive around all day eating donuts and giving tickets. Clearly that is not the case with all Officers. People are quick to judge and I try not to say much and laugh it off.

I met my Best Friend 7 years ago. My first instinct was keep on going he is a cop and I am not going down that road. Not only that he was very very cute. All the ladies and residents in my office would giggle at him, talk about how cute he was and go on and on. I really tried not to pay attention to him or them. I was given a piece of advice several years ago (12 maybe 15) from someone who turns out to be one of his co workers. He said "I know you are young but you need to stay away from the guns and badge". I will never forget that and I have no idea why. The words went through my mind over and over the first few days after Terry and I met. Something about him was different. He was gentle,kind,quiet and loving.

As time went by I knew he was the "one". It was just one of those feelings I couldn't fight. Sure he looked absolutely gorgeous dressed for work and maybe I loved the fact women giggled and gawked as he passed by. He was just "different" I had to keep him. I have never been one to "work at a relationship" when times got tough I would just move on. I knew from day one he was worth fighting for,working for and whatever else I needed to do.

So it turns out we got Married. We didn't do this right away so I would lay in bed at night dreaming about being his wife. I would Dream about the glamour that came with being the wife of a Deputy. The title,the status and everything else. I know I know that sounds so goofy but I really did. I imagined what it would be like to have our kids say "my daddy is a police man".

So I will tell you all about this "Glamorous" lifestyle. I had to instantly adjust to a lot of things. One thing I remember in the beginning was calling him on his cell phone and in the middle of talking the tone on his radio would sound. He would scramble to let me go and there I would be sitting in mid sentence phone in hand hoping and praying he would not get into a wreck going to that priority call. I would think in my head of all the times I have watched as people continued to go thru an intersection as a cop was blaring thru it. Every time this would happen for the next year or so I would cringe.
I would also instantly pray that once he got to that disturbance there would not be a heavily drugged up person waiting to have a "suicide by cop" or waiting to do whatever bad things they do. I would desperately sit and wait for that text that said "I am OK". We have had a ton of conversations in the past 7 years that have been interrupted by other peoples needs. I am not complaining at all!

I also learned that Police don't always get a lunch break. I can't tell you how many times my husband has come home from work and not been able to stop to potty or even have lunch. I had to learn that if we meet for lunch while he is on duty he may and will have to jump up and leave us and his lunch. I just finish eating and throw his away. I have been starred at while eating with him. Commented to and had to hear "do you know So and So?" Not to mention all the other stuff people stop and say. I however do love when people walk up and thank him for his hard work. It makes me proud.

I can tell you not a day goes by that I don't say at least 20 prayers for my husband. A simple traffic stop can turn fast. Things can go downhill so fast and I really don't think other people realize this.

I have also learned that Holidays are days that most families argue, fight and get depressed. My husband works during most Holidays when others are sitting home all snugly with their families. I try to make the most of the situation and enjoy what we have. Even if that means getting up at 4am to have Christmas so that he can be at work on time. I have learned to work around all holidays to fit my Husband's schedule. Yes I share him and I do it proudly. People do need him as bad as I do.

Going out to eat has changed forever. As we walk into a restaurant I can see his eyes scanning the entire place. He is looking for all exits,doors,escapes and making eye contact. He is looking at everyone and everything trying to remember it all. He will sit facing the door or facing everyone. I never understood it at first but it all makes sense now.He is working,protecting and making sure his family will have a way out. Simple things like going to the Hardware store or Walmart seem to be different. He will do whatever it takes to protect his family. He will see someone he recognises from time to time after putting someone in jail. He will say very little while scurrying us away. I don't stop him because chances are it is for a reason. I have heard a million times "be aware of your surroundings","don't leave anything in the car", "lock the doors". At times I have wanted to yell at the top of my lungs "I AM NOT A TEENAGER!" But I had to learn that there are people out there who will recognize him and hate him. You may not hear it on the news everyday but people are very cruel.

I have learned he is human and has bad days. He will have days he comes home laughing and days he just needs a shoulder. I had to learn to understand he hears and will see very disturbing things daily and he has to deal with these things. If he wants to talk about it I am here to listen. I will let him open up pour his heart out and I will console him. After all he is a human. If you or I had to deal with 1 bad call we would immediately break down. He has to be strong daily and not fall down. He has to listen to people argue,fight,cuss him out and demean him. He is not to be offended by the hateful actions of others.

His job is not just a job. This is his life. I have learned he is a Deputy 24/7. I have learned to respect that and even the things that seem so silly to me are real life situations for him. I have learned he is prepared for all situations at all times. I have learned to not be annoyed or offended when he comments on my speed or driving abilities.I have also learned he will go above and beyond to protect others.

Having that Patrol car in our driveway is another thing...I feel like a target at times. Sure the neighbors think it is great having a car out front. Well I have sat awake at night thinking about that criminal recognizing his car and wanting to do something just to be mean.

We have been at our children's sporting events and learned not to mention what he does. People always complain,treat us different, want help with a ticket or will tell us about the DWI they were given and ask what they can do in court to beat it. Yes I am serious.

I lay next to my husband at night and have wondered why he is jumping in his sleep. Is he having nightmares? Is he that worn out? I pray for his safety non stop. I never want to know what it feels like to lose him or explain to the kids any of that.

I have worked extra hard to make sure everything in our home is perfect. He knows very little about bills, finances or anything stressful. I feel as if this is my way of making sure he doesn't have to worry about anything at home while he is trying to protect and serve.

I am so proud to be his wife. He is the most amazing man I have ever known. He is so dedicated to his job, his work ethics are amazing. He was made for this job. He quit a higher paying job to do this 20 years ago. He is more dedicated to helping others than anyone I have ever known. He spends hours away from his family to protect other people's families. He is not lazy,crooked,doesn't have a chip on his shoulder, carries his badge with pride and has never once complained about working late to help others. He lives each day fully prepared to lay down his life to protect others. He faces others with nothing to gain but everything to lose. I truly think he begins each day knowing it could be his last.

Every morning without fail he kisses my forehead. He thinks I am asleep but honestly I am awake waiting for what could be my first or last kiss of the day.

I could go on and on but I will stop here because my little eyes have filled with tears just thinking about all that he does.



"Hate cops? Next time you're in trouble, call a crackhead." Let me know how that works out for ya!

Monday, March 21, 2011

DO YOU SEE IT???? Now that I see this picture up close I see the start of another tooth coming thru!!
Nick had a fun Spring Break but by Friday he was BEGGING to go to his memaw's house. He loves her so much it is funny...he told me I like going for a visit because she lets me do whatever I want and I can eat anything I want to. He also informed me that he just knows his Memaw is cooking something good and he needs to go eat.

Not only was he excited about getting dressed up for church he also got to go to a Rockets game.

Nick absolutly loves Brooke and Mary.

So he came home late last night and we were getting him ready for bed and asking him all kinds of questions. I always ask the kids a million questions about anything they do. Anyways I noticed one of his bottom teeth look "different" and I wiggled it, poked it and it really didn't do much. Then I said Open and move that tounge over...OMG HE HAS A TOOTH COMING IN! An adult tooth is moving its way up and pushing that baby right out of the way! WOW he is getting big!
Natalie had a great Spring Break also...she went camping with our Old neighbors Laura and Clay. Much much less stressful for me.
I think during the week she also got some much needed "mommy" time with me. Sure we could use more but you take what you can get...right.






She also got to go to the Rodeo with her friend Kailyn...oh and a water park.
Spring Break came and went way to fast. I am so not looking forward to the kids getting back to school at all!


Lauren was lucky enough to be invited on a cruise to Key West and the Bahamas. WOW I envy her! This was the longest week of my life (maybe) and I was worried about her up until Thursday when I finally heard from her. Oh yea did I tell you she left Wed. for a trip to Corpus, came home Saturday at about 8pm then left Sunday for cruise about 5am. When she walked on to the ship she was instantly motion sick. I was stressed out so bad about it. I just didn't want her whole week to consist of laying across a bed throwing up. So she was texting me up until the point they set sail. I had previously called our Cell phone carrier who told me about the UNREAL rates while on the ship. I had to tell her ok only text me 1 time a day and that is it. No worries there because as soon as the ship set sail NO SERVICE. So I guess you could understand my worries. Days went by...I text and called daily and sometimes hourly to see if the phone would ring and it never did. I finally convinced myself she was fine. Thursday I called and the phone rang! WOOT WOOT! She didn't answer but shortly after she called. YAY! She was sounding homesick and did tell me things are ok and she has stayed sick except while in Bahamas. Oh and there is no phone service in the Bahamas. So as I was talking to her she was pulling in to Key West. She did Parasail in the Keys and came home with a disk of pictures they paid extra for...um yea they got ripped off on that. No pictures. Oh and while in the Bahamas she went Jet skiing. Sounds like so much fun to me!
She came home and I have never been more excited to see my child!! 10 days away from home is to much.





As of right now these are the only pictures she has...her camera broke in the Bahamas.

Friday, March 18, 2011

HAPPY ST.PATRICK'S DAY!



We had an all day celebration that started off with green eggs and green pancakes. They loved it so much. One thing I can say about toddlers is they love to see the change in food as you add food colors.
Through out the day we had green apples, green grapes, green juice, green mac n cheese followed by green cupcakes. What a fun day!
So my 365 project is not doing so well as you can see....I am just going to keep doing what I have been doing and hope you still like my pictures.

Friday, March 11, 2011

Day 45/365

He was a little to close to the house....



Give them a little dirt pile and they are happy kids!

Thursday, March 10, 2011

Day 44/365
I say it all the time and I will say it again...I am so proud of my kids! They try hard at everything they do. They make good grades,good decisions and always succeed at what they do.

Lauren is involved in so many school activities and still manages to keep her grades up.

Natalie is also involved in so many activities and has excellent grades.

Nicholas has now made it to school for 20 consecutive days! That is a huge deal for him! He has overcome is "problem" and realizes it is ok to go to school. Up until this week he was still vomiting daily but it was happening once he entered the school. Before it was in my vehicle. Don't worry because we had "special bags". Everyday that it has happened he wasn't upset at all so we really think he was nervous or something. I will keep doing what I have been doing since it is working.

Ashlynn is growing like crazy and talks so much it is funny. She still loves her swing like it is the best thing on EARTH!

I am just so happy the girls make good decisions and think about thinks before they jump. I know they are going to thank me one day for being a "strict" parent.

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Day 43/365
OHHH MY LORD! I feel like I have been caught up in a tornado the past few weeks and couldn't get out. With Natalie in softball life is hectic only because I am also trying to get other things done. We had Softball opening day and Cheer Banquet on the same day. The problem was...like always I waited until the last minute to get things together. Saturday I was in a total panic because Natalie had to be at fields at 1 then go home and be back at 5 for games at 5 and 6. Banquet started at 6:30. I had to spend the morning rushing around to find Nick something to wear. Suddenly it started raining (lllaaaaaaaaa! that's me singing) and a cold front came in. THAT MY DEAR means softball was cancelled. Yes I wanted to see my baby play but I was stressing over the time frame. So that created a new problem. What was Natalie going to wear? OMG here we go again!
Everything worked out like it was supposed to, I threw one of Lauren's cute dresses on Nat and it was good.
Suddenly Lauren came home took one look and said that is not her dress and she can't wear it! OH NO! Well we worked it out. I will skip the details but it was pretty funny. Natalie had to change in the car on the way to banquet with Lauren driving.
Go head ask me why Lauren didn't have a date. Why? He is a baseball player and they had a Championship game. SWEET JESUS she had to go dateless! We went to banquet and did what we had to and I was keeping in touch with her boyfriend by text (imagine that). After the awards part I knew he would be arriving any minute. The next thing I knew here he comes running up the stairs of the banquet room still in his baseball uniform.

It was pretty cute. I have more pictures to post. Not only was it so cute but they have a cute story to go with the picture.

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Day 42/365

He loves her so much he picked this outfit out at the store to wear to her banquet.

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Day 41/365



You can tell it is Spring Time around here. Our sweet little boy and his froggies.

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Day 40/365

WOW look at those lashes!
I keep talking about our garden and keep saying I will post pictures but I am so busy I will remember as I lay down at night. So first thing this morning I ran out and took a picture.


We most likely won't do anything with the mint but I love it.
Well I finally have figured out why Nick has anxiety...he gets it from me I am sure. Today he has his first ever field trip to the Houston Livestock Show. WOW I think I may spend the day worried! This morning he was very excited and I was talking to him about not leaving his group and how it would be very exciting BUT if you do get lost I want you to find a police man that wears a uniform like Daddy and hand him this note.
I wrote a note with his name, who his daddy is and the area he works with his number. Nick placed it in his pocket and said don't worry mommy I will tell them to call him on the radio! HHHHHHHHHH (deep breath) As I pulled up at school I saw his teacher and said well have fun today, I told Nick not to leave his group. She replied "It will be very hectic because every school gets in free today" OMG! I did not need that vision in my head.
GREAT!

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Day 39/365

As I looked out the window this evening this is what caught my eye. A very happy 5yr old jumping out of a swing. HHHUUUU to be 5 again, no worries, no enemies and no fear. I remember doing this as a kid and giving every adult in sight a heart attack...that just may be what happened to me as I saw him doing this.